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How To Lose a Friend (On Purpose, the Right Way) December 10, 2009

Posted by raynatamarin in Relationships.
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I was asked a very interesting question recently. The woman said…

“How do I cut ties with a friend who has been a best friend of mine for about 5 years, but annoys me like crazy, and is simply bad for my health, but is a core member of my favorite group of friends and is a loyal customer of my business?”

My response:

Because you met people through that person doesn’t mean you need to remain knowing that person. You don’t “owe” them and they do not “own” you because of this. If you had to choose between him buying from you or putting up with all of this, which would you choose?

She replied:

I want him out. But he’s a great person, a great artist, but I just can’t be around him anymore.

My response:

If you are aware of the way we attract like vibrations, then you know Law of Attraction so this should come as no surprise. Everyone is a mirror. The things we most like and most dislike about others are usually qualities we share. If you can locate the part of you that is most like his good side and most like his not so good side, then you can begin to strengthen the good matching parts of yourself and let go of the parts that match the things you don’t like to see in him. Because of Law of Attraction and the Laws of Manifestation and the nature of reality, this will cause you to draw to you more of the qualities you like, and become free of those qualities you don’t want to encounter from anyone.

You may have outgrown him. Which means he seems more distant in now many ways–the ways in which you clash and are vibrating in different places. But he doesn’t seem distant enough for your taste in the physical sense yet because he yet lingers in your life experience. You see, he is going to fizzle away if you stick to growing your best qualities and letting the rest go. If he isn’t choosing to grow at the rate you are, and in the direction you are choosing to go, then that’s life and you’ll have to be at peace with him not being around. Would it be relatively easier to not call or text him anymore, or the like? If so, then you can just not take those actions. Following your bliss means doing what feels good and right for you. No one requires you to put bliss on the back burner at anytime, and if they do, then they were present in your life to teach you this lesson. So be grateful to them and you can let them go in peace.

She said:

In the past I have accidentally not called or communicated with him for a period of time and he would say “Why are you ignoring me?”and then at parties he starts being weird around me acting like we have to make up or something and says things like “You’re the best” and I just want to get away.

My response:

The best thing you can do is not be anything like him. Opposites do not attract, they only seek for and draw to them what they desire to become. You want to be something more and so leave out the rest and you’ll find only those like you, around you. The rest will be drawn away from you naturally. You never have to have “that talk” or “break up”. It will work out by design. Your design.

That’s What Friends Are For November 22, 2009

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Here is some information on the subject of friends.

I know friendship is a touchy subject in a world where people rely on other people in order to feel good about themselves. A lot of the time people want to know how they can determine whether their friends are ‘real’ or phony. In a world of illusion, what is real?

Well my friends, Love is real.

So what are friends for? Let’s talk about this.

I see how friends can become an important subject, however exactly where is the need to discuss friendship coming from? If this type of question haunts you, then we are at a level where we can now hear and better understand the role of a friend.

Why spend so much time and effort on other people in how they relate to and feel towards us? The only thing we need to look at when it comes to other people is how they mirror us, and in doing so, we are given clear guidance in order to navigate ourselves. Everyone we know, we have attracted and created from the inside out for us to experience ourselves through.

A “fair weather friend” is in alignment to us at that time. A “bad weather friend” is there because they are in alignment with us at that time. We never really have to go further than that because the rest is getting into details that are illusory.

When we ask, someone is there to answer. But we’ll only be able to experience from the place where we are emotionally, spiritually and mentally. So only people who are also where we are emotionally, spiritually and mentally will be heard and only to the extent that we allow ourselves to hear them. If you are having a bad day, then someone will come to you who is able to hear your down perspective. That means that that person must be at that down perspective as well otherwise they will have to lower or raise their perspective in order to hear you and provide a presence in your experience at that time. That person will never lift us up or bring us further down unless we are fully allowing their influence. No one can control our perspective but we may allow influence. It is best to remain clear and unaffected. We should never expect someone else to meet us at our level. There are plenty of other versions of the mirror who will reflect back to us exactly where we are. There is no need to force the issue or attempt to control the perspective or level of another person. It is us personally who must change if we want our friends to change.

In order to attract only fulfilling and satisfying feeling relationships, we must already be fulfilled and satisfied. We only share in the happiness and love that is our true nature. We do not create that happiness, although many of us do resist it from time to time. If we can purposefully live with a full allowing of fulfillment which is our true nature, only those who are fulfilled and satisfied will find us (or really be created by us). When we look into these friends a.k.a. mirrors we say, “They make me happy.” But they do not. They are merely reflecting back our already established happiness and together we share it.

Namaste. The God in me sees the God in you.

<3, Rayna (the Muse! ^_^)